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What Can A Mediator See?

Through The Eyes Of Your Mediator

When you are going through a divorce, there are a lot of details and emotions involved. You want things to be as amicable as possible, but it can be hard to work with your soon-to-be former spouse. If you want to stay out of the courts, mediation is a good option. What does the mediator see during the mediation process? Here are a few examples to help you get an idea what the mediation process will be like.

Mediators See But Don’t Feel Emotions

Mediators are human beings, just like you and your spouse, so while they might see your emotion over certain situations and they might even empathize with you, they are not in your shoes and they will not feel the emotions you or your spouse feel. This works to your advantage. They do not have a vested interest in either side. They are a neutral party who will help you make decisions based on what’s best for both sides. They won’t act on emotions like you and your former spouse might tend to do.

Mediators See The Big Picture

While you might be stubborn and unwilling to give on something little, the mediator in question will see the overall picture when it comes to your divorce. They can see the broad scope of items, property, and even children involved and they will help to guide you and your ex to an agreement that works for both of you. They will help you with the give and take of the process so you can reach a comfortable settlement based on the overall picture.

Mediators See Resolutions

While the mediator is not there to resolve your disputes, they do see possible options and they can present those to you and your spouse to help you reach an agreement. They see both sides and they will hear what both of you want. They will offer different options that might lead you to an agreement that works. They will not make any decisions for you, but they are there to help you reach decisions with one another.

Mediators See Privacy Issues

Mediators understand that you are coming to them to resolve your issues in a quiet, private manner. You don’t want to lawyer up and fight it out in public court. You would like to take care of things quietly, personally, and privately.  Your mediator sees the privacy issues that can come about with divorce in open court and helps you keep things within the walls of the room you work with them in.

Do You Want To Work With Mediators?

If you would like to save money on your divorce while working on a plan both you and your ex can live with, mediators are a good fit for your purposes. Mediators are there to help you avoid court so you never have an all or nothing deal with your settlement. Both parties have to be satisfied before you can move on. Contact South Bay Mediation to help you get through this difficult time as easily as possible with mediators you can trust.

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